Motivate And Love Your Children
“Children are great imitators. So give them something great to imitate.”
As parents, we only want the best for our children. We want them to be confident and self-loving people. There’s only one way to raise your child’s self-esteem and that is by having your own self-respect. Our children model themselves after our actions, not just our words. We can’t tell them one thing and act the opposite. As long as we try every day to be the best person we can be, then our kids will do the same.
Here are some guiding principles we can all use as caring parents:
- You must model self-respect. When children see a shining example, it is easier for them to incorporate high self-esteem behaviors into their own lives.
- Treat each child as a unique individual. Respecting uniqueness in children means a genuine acceptance of each person as unique creations with unlimited potential to become anything they might choose for themselves throughout life.
- A child is not an action. He is a person who acts. To promote high self-esteem you must be aware of the difference between these two conflicting notions. A child who fails is not a failure; he or she has simply acted in a way which has given him or her an opportunity to grow.
- Provide opportunities to be responsible and make decisions. Children need to take on responsibilities, rather than have their parents do things for them. They learn confidence by doing, not by watching someone else do it for them.
- Teach enjoyment of life each day. Children who live in a positive environment learn to be positive about themselves. To raise self-esteem it is essential to provide a positive approach to life as a way of thinking for your children. Give them regular examples of “count your blessings” reactions when they feel down.
- Provide praise rather than criticism. Children who are criticized learn to do the same thing to themselves, and ultimately become persons with low self-regard. Praise is a wonderful tool in the entire process of child education. Create an environment in which your children know that you are with them in their efforts, rather than looking to criticize them.
- We become what we think about; our thinking determines our self-image, which in turn determines our feelings and our behavior. Keep in mind that your children have thoughts that are shaped by your input. Do they believe in themselves? Their thinking will determine what their lives will be. They will become what they think about, and you can be a positive force for thinking or a negative force.